PRE CONFERENCE WORKSHOP
1° DAY WEDNESDAY 15TH OCTOBER
THE ART OF LYING TO YOURSELF AND ANOTHER.
CTS & STC Change Strategies
I&G Paul Ekman Internationa
Lying is a language game that needs to be learned: first of all not
to suffer it, however it raises the capabilities of the individual.
Lying and deceit have always been a fundamental aspect when working in the field of human relationships. Even St. Agostine had dedicated a lot of his efforts and works on this argument. He sustained that the act of lying to ourselves and others, is an intrinsic factor of the language, therefore, is an effect of communication.
Lying has always been considered prejudicially a wrong thing, yet this can be regarded so if lying is done consciously, intentionally and with a manipulative intent. Therefore the great majority of lying, such as the self-deception, the consoling deception, the therapeutic deception, the educational deception and the love deception can be dismissed from an ethical and a moral condemnation.
If we look at things from a pragmatic point of view, and if we had to take in account that more than 65% of communicative interactions are not honest if not pure lies, and if we think that our nature imposes us to constant perceptive self-deceptions, just as our culture and our knowledge impose cognitive and behavioral self-deception, lying to ourselves and others becomes a fundamental field of study and application.
Working with patients who feed their pathology on the base of dysfunctional self-deceptions, indeed, demands an intervention which converts them from dysfunctional into a more therapeutic functional ones, just like in no-clinical context benevolent lying represents a strategic tool in facing life successfully.
Owning tools to discriminate between real and false narratives, between genuine and faked emotional expressions, represents a growing need in a various contexts, such as in medicine, psychology, investigations and so on.
Therefore, the ability to recognize and learn how to use the art of lying to ourselves and to others represents one of the most important competences and skills for those working towards therapeutic and strategic change.
with Giorgio Nardone participants will acquire:
an operative tool on the art of deceiving ourselves and lying to others:
- deceiving ourselves: transforming self-deceptions from dysfunctional to functional ones.
- different types of self-deceptions and behavioural and psychological disorders
- self-deceptions and relational dynamics
- self-deceptions and blocks of performance
- the benevolent forms of lying to others: the strategic, therapeutic, consoling and educational lying
Identifying the liar and the Pragmatics of lying
- the basic forms of lying and advanced techniques
- detailed descriptions and plausible arguments
- mixing lies and truths
- acting the lie
Manipulating the liar
- creating confusion: supporting the lie to make it collapse
- the wise who acts the fool
- Mentire dicendo la verità
- lying by saying the truth
- real cases demonstrations
with Diego Ingrassia we acquire knowledge on:
- the approach to the Paul Ekman's scientific methodology in analysing the cues of truth and lie
- distinction between a real and a fake story
- the most common errors during an assessment and the false myths in the non verbal communication
- an observation technique of the 5 channels of communication
- how to identify concealed emotions through the interpretation of facial micro-expressions
- how to implement the competence of contextual listening
- real cases demonstrations
A usual practice for both speakers is to work with a constant interaction with participants and make use of volunteers from the audience for live intervention demonstrations. .
|The Pre-Conference Workshop will be translated from Italian to English, Spanish and Russian languages following a simultaneous modality.|